It is practically a given that men will always have a hard time figuring out women and vise versa. The saying men are from mars and women are from Venus holds true in this aspect. But before you give up, remember that in a relationship there is such a thing as the general stuff which women might universally agree upon. A woman – your wife, fiancé, girlfriend or life partner – is easier to keep and terribly easier to please when you know the simple things that delight her and what that will require of you. You might very well be surprised to note that these are actually very easy to do and not hard to remember at all.
Getting to the Bottom of Things
Of course, you have to be aware that the problem with not being able to understand women in the first place is that some people have lived and continue to live with principles about relationships that are truly very outdated and out of fashion. If you continue to be like this – assuming that you are one of those men who are living by outdated principles – then you might very well say good bye to understanding the other person and keeping your relationship.
The Primary Things to Take Note Of
First things first: Women want to be appreciated. When women ask for your opinion, you are obligated to really tell them how you feel – especially when it comes to soothing their troubled egos and boosting their confidence. There never was a man who was sent to his execution for actually taking the time out to tell his wife or girlfriend that a particular dress or hairstyle actually looked good on her. It is the little things like this – words of admiration and praise – that make you all the more endearing to your partner.
It does not have to be all about the physical look or appearance –you can compliment her on her smart brain or her amazing wits or even her ability to make people at ease. Bottom line is, you got to compliment but do it honestly. There is no use scrambling for compliments that are not really valid but you say it anyway because you feel that you have to.
Second, you should always remember that women do not want to be treated like second class citizens. This is your partner or your other half, for crying out loud. You have to value her as a person and not just as the prettiest flower in the garden. And the best way for you to do this is to always ask her for her opinion when it counts. Ask her about the stock market. Ask her which new computer you should probably get for yourself, request for her help in something. When you do this, you will make her feel that you value her as someone who can actually do more in your life than just be a useless but pretty piece of arm and eye candy that you parade around.
And of course, you should also remember that women want to have their own time as well. If there is football for the guys, then there is an equivalent for that for the girls. This means you should encourage her to actually have a social life because it will really be a healthy contribution to your relationship.
When you want her to do something by herself or on her own, you are signaling that you believe there are some things that are good for her and that she is her own person who is strong enough to go and do those things alone. And when you encourage her, always let her know that you will be right there at home waiting for her to return and eager to listen about all the things that she did while she was away. If you keep these in mind, you will have a better handle on your relationship.