No matter how much of a 'hunk' your girlfriend thought you to be when you first got together, that impression just goes down the drain the minute that she breaks up with you. Whatever the reason is behind the breakup, it is important to try everything that you can in order to impress her again, earn her trust, ease your way back into her life and eventually get back together.
The process may sound simple, but there are challenges that you need to face along the way. Now, before even doing anything to try and impress your ex-girlfriend, there are a few steps that you need to take and some important points that you need to keep in mind. Read on to find out exactly what they are.
Step 1: Gain Control of Your Unruly Emotions
No matter how much men claim to be emotionally detached when something unfortunate happens, your emotions are bound to be out of whack immediately after a breakup. This is the reason why you need to let your anger, depression, surprise – whatever intense feelings it is that you have – to fade out first.
You're bound to make rash decisions if you do anything at this point. You might think about getting back together with her not because you want her back in your life – but because you just want to salvage your hurt ego or pride.
Once you're feeling a bit more settled emotionally, that’s the time that you can decide whether you really want to win back your ex-girlfriend. Make sure that it's just not your hurt pride talking. If you decide later on that you just can't live with yourself without at least trying to win her back, there's no stopping you, is there?
Some Challenges that You Have to Overcome when Impressing Your Ex-Girlfriend
Remember that impressing your ex-girlfriend is never the same as impressing her when you first met. Here are a few challenges that you need to overcome when trying to manage this hulk of a task:
-When you first met, she had no clue at all about the type of person you are. As she discovered the different layers which make up your personality, she decided that it's something that she likes and she can live with.
However, if it's your ex-girlfriend who you are impressing – it's an entirely different ball game. By now, she knows you enough to learn when you're lying or when you're not being sincere.
-If you try to impress her when she's already your 'ex-girlfriend' she'll recognize that little twitch that you make with your face when you're not being truthful. No matter how many winning-her-back-together-gestures you make, her judgment may be clouded by the reminder of the fact that you don't put the toilet seat down or the many times that she caught you spinning a yarn of lies.
Step 2: The 'Impressing' Part
Now comes the good part. After knowing what types of challenges you are up against when trying to impress your ex-girlfriend, the 'impressing' part is next.
Here are a few tried-and-tested ways to impress your ex-girlfriend when you're trying to win her back:
-Combine the things that used to impress her with an element of surprise.
No matter how long you have been together, there really should be something about you that you have not revealed to her yet. Use this as the element of surprise, and combine it with the things that used to impress her.
Try to remind her of why she fell for you in the first place and show her that you're willing to make changes this time around. As long as you're sincere about it, she'll see your efforts of impressing her for what they really are: a real 'want' on your part to earn back her trust.
- Make a grand gesture, only take it one step higher.
If your ex-girlfriend used to bug you about a habit that she finds annoying, try to show her that you are trying to change. For example, if she loved you despite that paunch in your belly, get off your butt and try to work it off in the gym. Once she sees that you're trying to change because of her, she'll appreciate your efforts and you just might win her back.
Remember that a woman's heart is one of the softest and most precious things in the world. As long as you try to win this part of her along with your efforts to impress – there's a very good chance that she'll say yes to being with you the second time around.